Theory
Here's my theory of marriage in Egypt...It's quite a simple statement but I will take a huge amount of your time to waste as I explain what it means. Here goes:
Eventually, whether you are a male or a female Egyptian, you will manage to get married. Not necessarily because you will want to but because it is a win-win situation that you will choose over a win-lose situation at some point or the other in your life.
Sounds silly? It kind of is...But watch how frighteningly true it gets cause I'll probably be reminding you of this myself (when I'm married, obviously!) about fifteen years from now or so. Nah, that probably won't happen but it's a small world! In any case; the theory is pretty simple: At some point in your life you will have to get married...Why? Because even if you refuse the idea of marriage completely you will face some situation sooner or later where (yes, you, the very same guy who once wore the 'Single Forever' t-shirt) the choice will be either: marriage or outcast. Nobody, yes, nobody wants to be the outcast...No matter how much time and effort you put in trying to prove to yourself that being an outcast is synonymous with being 'special', you will eventually tire yourself out. Why do you become an outcast if you don't get married? Because the stereotype of society is this: man + woman + kids from man and woman not from man only and other woman = family = normal...If you don't get married because you don't WANT to, you will become an outcast...And people are not very forgiving in that sense.
Now for the 'win-win' thing...I thought that sounded complicated. But it's easy enough. See if you don't get married you have a win-lose effect: You win your own choice (which is most probably a lie to yourself due of our regular biological nature) and you will lose society's look at you. Now many stupid teenagers/people/kids (like myself a few years ago) thought that the way society looked at you was completely worthless...Of course it is worthless if you live in a perfect world and you were born devoid of potential mental illness/slight depression/worrying, etc. But for most of us, it isn't...And it shouldn't be. Once you put yourself in the 'society's look doesn't matter' thing you put yourself in the 'I judge myself' region too which is (quite simply) your ego stabbing your soul in the back. Anyhow, back to the main point...What's the 'win-win' situation then? You must've figured that out; you win your own choice AND society's look at you through (you must've guessed that too, genius) marriage.
Finally, because you will also end up in a group of unmarried people and what do these guys do? Put simply: they tend to marry each other. Remember that old cliche' saying, 'There's someone for everyone (but not for annoying idiots)'? It's kinda true (well not technically but it proves my theory so I like to think it's true to make my theory work!).
Of course, I hold this theory accountable for much correction in the following years, as my mind is slowly morphing into something I'm not yet fully familiar with, I have no idea what my views will be after the next three seconds or if they will even change after three years. And I also don't consider it a general thing really...It's just something I've been thinking about and you know the rule: Whatever I think about, ends up here.
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